Can I stop the night feeds at ten months but keep the day ones? She wakes three times

Ten months, breastfed, eats well in the day, and still wakes three times a night to feed. Every night. I'm back at work in five weeks and I genuinely don't know how I'll function.

I don't want to stop breastfeeding. I love the morning feed and the after nursery feed and I want to keep those. But I want the nights back, or at least some of them.

Is that even possible, to wean just the nights? Or does stopping nights mess up the whole thing? Everyone in my baby group either co sleeps and doesn't mind or did sleep training and stopped feeding altogether, and I don't fit either.

Very possible. Did it at about nine months. My partner went in for the first wake up for a week so she got a cuddle and some water instead of me, and she gave up on that one surprisingly fast. The other two took longer.

I'd say drop one at a time, not all three at once. Start with whichever is easiest to settle another way. My daughter's 4am one was pure habit, the midnight one she really wanted, so the 4am went first.

Also be ready for a fuller feeling in the mornings for a week or so. Mine settled.

Rach, yes, night weaning while keeping day feeds is very common and it does not have to end breastfeeding. Supply adjusts to the new pattern, so the day feeds carry on.

The others have the shape of it. Go gradually, one night feed at a time, giving each change a few days to settle before the next. Choose which to drop first based on which wake is the easiest to settle without a feed. Having another adult go in, as Hollie did, helps a lot, because a baby who can smell milk tends to want it. Some parents shorten night feeds gradually first, a little less time each night, before replacing them with a cuddle. Expect some fuller mornings and keep an eye out for any tender lumpy patches while your body catches up.

A couple of things to check first. Make sure she is having plenty in the day, so offer the breast and food well, because some babies feed more at night when they are busy or apart from you in the day, and that may increase once nursery starts. And if she seems unwell, is teething hard or is going through a big change, it is fine to pause and pick it up again later. Night feeds and breastfeeding covers why older babies still wake, and how to stop breastfeeding has the gradual approach in more detail. If you have any worries about her weight or sleep, your health visitor can look at the whole picture.

With my second I dropped the middle of the night feed first and it took about a week of grumbling. It is worth it.

Thank you all. Plan is partner does the 2am for a week, I keep the 11pm for now, and we'll see about the 5am. Wish us luck.

Two week update. The 2am is gone, she now wakes, gets a cuddle from her dad, grumbles and goes back down. The 5am I've moved later and later and it's basically become the morning feed. Still doing the 11pm and honestly I don't mind that one.

So one night feed instead of three. I slept five hours in a row on Tuesday and nearly cried. Day feeds are exactly the same. Back at work in a fortnight feeling like a human.